Why Most Autism Protocols Miss the Mark
When you first hear the term “autism protocol,” what pops into your mind? Maybe you picture a cluttered binder stuffed with supplement schedules, restrictive diets, complicated do’s and don’ts, and pages of one-size-fits-all rules that feel anything but personal. Sounds familiar? That’s exactly what most parents expect when they start seeking support for their child with autism. But what if the real key to lasting progress is starting with less, not more?
In this blog post, I’m going to walk you through how I design personalized autism care plans that actually fit your life—without the overwhelm, the cookie-cutter solutions, or the feeling that you’re constantly drowning in information.
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Protocol Overwhelm: Why Does It Happen So Often?
Let’s get real for a second: if you’re a parent or caregiver of a child with autism, you probably know what protocol overwhelm feels like on a deep level. You just want to help your child thrive. You dive into every Facebook group, read every blog, check YouTube and TikTok, and take in all the info you can from fellow parents and experts. But soon enough, instead of feeling empowered, you feel swamped. You’re lost. You’re desperate for something that works.
“There’s so much information out there. What I see time and again is parents strictly listening to people who are just sharing what’s worked for their own child. And sometimes that information doesn’t fit.”
It’s easy to see why so many get overwhelmed: not only are you swimming in advice from fellow parents and professionals, but you’re also bombarded with protocols that promise quick fixes, magic supplements, or dramatic turnarounds—often without any real customization.
Protocol overwhelm happens for a few big reasons:
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There’s too much information from too many sources
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Most advice is generic, not personalized for your child
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Many “protocols” are a patchwork of trends and anecdotes, not real strategies
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You feel pressure to try everything, just in case
This blog post is all about simplifying the crazy maze of autism protocols—and showing you how to build something that really works for your child.
The Problem with Copy-and-Paste Autism Care
Let’s talk about one of the biggest issues in autism care: the “copy and paste” mindset. So many families come to me on the tail end of a long journey through generic care plans. Maybe a friend’s child benefited from a certain supplement stack or restrictive diet, and suddenly, everyone in the community is trying it too. Maybe a specialist hands you a thick protocol, and it looks exactly like what three other parents in your group showed you last month.
Why does this happen?
Doctors and “experts” often build protocols as starting points—but those same protocols get passed around as if they’re guaranteed to help everyone.
“Protocols are just that—a starting point of basis. It’s not that every single child that gets this supplement protocol is going to get better. It’s not realistic because it’s not individualized.”
When you’re following a plan that wasn’t built for your child, you end up missing what matters most: your child’s unique needs, preferences, and challenges.
Real Problems with Generic Protocols
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No Personalization: Everyone’s treated the same, even if their challenges are different.
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You Might Be Addressing the Wrong Thing: Without understanding the root cause, changes can miss what’s really driving your child’s symptoms.
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Mental Fatigue: As a parent, you end up exhausted—overloaded with recommendations, unsure what’s working, and unable to keep up with rapidly changing routines.
Individuality Matters: Why Personalized Plans Work
If you see ten different children with an autism diagnosis, you’ll also see ten totally unique profiles. Each child has their own strengths, struggles, patterns, and triggers.
“I treat many kids who have a diagnosis of autism, but their struggles and challenges may all be very different… If I give them all a generic protocol, that’s not fair and it’s not realistic. To get to the root cause of why symptoms are happening, we need to know more about the individual.”
What Does “Bio-Individuality” Mean?
Bio-individuality means that each person (and each child) has a different set of needs, biochemistry, life experiences, and sensitivities. A protocol that helps one child sleep through the night may make another child’s digestion worse. A supplement that calms one child may overstimulate another.
Personalized care means:
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You treat the child, not the diagnosis
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You get to the bottom of their unique strengths and challenges
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You build on their natural abilities
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You keep what’s working, and ditch what isn’t
Decoding Information Overload
You walk into the first appointment with your child and out pours the list of supplements, routines, and treatments you’re currently trying. Sometimes you know why you’re giving them. Sometimes, you don’t—someone online just said it might help. And when asked about long-term results, usually things are inconsistent.
“Sometimes parents don’t even know why they’re giving a supplement. They just heard it might help. That’s not bad, but if you’re shooting in the dark, you’ll probably hit a brick wall, because you don’t really know where you’re starting from.”
Why This Happens
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The internet is overflowing with “hacks” and fixes
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Specialist protocols are often passed around like recipes
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You want to help, so you keep adding on more and more, hoping something sticks
But when you’re always trying to do everything, you risk doing nothing well—and it’s just plain unsustainable.
Inside My Approach as a Naturopathic Doctor
Let’s break down what truly effective, sustainable autism care looks like. If you’re expecting a big supplement plan and restrictive diet on the first visit, you’ll be surprised!
Here’s the real process—what I actually do with families, and why it works way better than “protocols” that try to solve everything at once.
The Intake: Asking and Observing
The first step isn’t handing out supplements or diet changes. It’s asking good questions and watching closely. The body gives clues—sometimes on the outside—which can tell us a lot about what’s happening inside.
Some of my key intake areas:
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Poop: Yep, we go there. Gut health shapes a child’s overall health.
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Behavior: What’s changing? When does it happen? Are there patterns?
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Sleep Habits: Can they fall asleep and wake at regular times? Or are they always on high alert?
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Energy Patterns: Do mornings or evenings seem particularly tough?
“If your kid can’t get out of bed in the morning but is wired at bedtime, that’s not normal. There’s usually some type of cortisol dysregulation…”
By starting with careful observation (not guesses!), we get a deeper sense of what’s truly going on beneath the surface.
The Importance of Testing—Not Guessing
Too often, people jump straight to solutions without a good sense of what’s wrong. Over my years as a behavior therapist and naturopathic doctor, I learned that what’s written on a chart is less important than what I see in the child.
“Now I’m at the point where I really want to be certain. The sooner we get the right information and apply it, the sooner we get results. I like to test and observe, not just guess.”
Top tools I use:
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Asking deep-dive questions
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Watching for patterns (especially environmental triggers)
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Running targeted labs—not a broad shotgun approach, but tests to confirm what I’m already observing
What I Don’t Do on the First Visit
Here’s where my approach is different. Most parents expect to leave the first appointment with a long to-do list or a shopping cart full of supplements. In reality, these are the things I intentionally don’t do right away.
1. I Don’t Start with Supplements
“Less is more. I want to do and give the least amount of things that will have the biggest impact.”
Unless there’s a clear, acute issue that can’t wait, I don’t prescribe a raft of supplements after the first visit. Giving out 10 different things “just in case” isn’t my style.
2. I Don’t Eliminate Foods Immediately
Food is medicine, but radical dietary overhauls out of nowhere usually do more harm than good. As a naturopathic doctor (with extra nutrition training), I know dietary changes stick best when they’re slow, thoughtful, and fit your child’s unique needs.
3. I Don’t Print Out a Mega-Protocol and Send You Home
It’s not realistic (or helpful!) to blast parents with a long list of generic recommendations. Sometimes, the first step is doing nothing at all—taking time to watch, test, and plan.
“You have to have a long term vision and a strategy. Sometimes the first step is actually just doing nothing.”
The Power of “Doing Nothing” and Building a Strong Foundation
It might sound counter-intuitive, but the best first step is often pausing so you can watch, wait, and learn before taking action.
“Sometimes the first steps are just doing nothing at all. You have to have a long-term vision, and a strategy.”
Why “Doing Nothing” Is So Important
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It keeps you from chasing quick fixes
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It lets you really see what’s happening with your child
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It protects you from adding to the overwhelm
When you pile on a protocol before you even know what problem you’re trying to solve, you might end up making things worse—or giving up before you can see results.
Long-Term Change: It’s a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Trying to overhaul everything at once is a recipe for stress and burnout. Lasting results come from pacing yourself and your child. The reality is that progress in autism care—especially if there are deep-rooted issues—takes time.
“This is not going to be something that shifts overnight. You’ve been dealing with this for years. It’ll take time for symptoms to resolve—sometimes more quickly, other times more slowly.”
Why Progress Can Be Slow (and Why That’s Okay)
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As children age, more systems and triggers come into play
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Life changes (like puberty) add new layers of complexity
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Consistency beats speed in the long run
“More often than not, it’s an ongoing process. One of the hardest times I see is around puberty—that usually introduces a new set of challenges.”
Testing, Tracking, and Fine-Tuning: A Real-Life Example
Here’s what my care timeline normally looks like with a new family:
The First Visit
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Ask lots of questions
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Watch the child’s behavior, movements, patterns
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Discuss basics: poop, sleep, energy, food
Step Back and Watch
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Don’t add new protocols, diets, or supplements right away
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Sometimes, the only thing we do is observe
Order Labs When It Makes Sense
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Only after a careful intake and observation
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Labs are targeted to the clues given by the child and parent—not a random battery of tests
The Second Visit and Beyond
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Review labs, clinical observations, and intake holistically
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Look for patterns: Is there a digestive issue? Inflammation? Sleep disruption?
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Build a plan that actually addresses the root systems at play—not a long list of “fixes” for every test result
“I want to look holistically and see: are there any patterns or themes? Am I seeing any stressors around digestion, inflammation, or sleep patterns? That’s how I figure out the next step.”
Less is More: Ditching the “More is Better” Myth
So many parents end up giving their child 10, 12, even 15+ supplements at once, out of love and hope… but it rarely leads to consistent progress.
“Just because something is natural doesn’t mean it’s safe. Too many supplements—even natural ones—can pile up and become redundant. Sometimes, excess or deficiency can both cause problems!”
Why I Always Start Low and Slow
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You know what’s working: If you make a dozen changes at once, you’ll never know which one helped—or hurt.
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You avoid side effects: More is not always better.
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You reduce overwhelm: Small, manageable steps empower you and your child. Big, sweeping changes can create anxiety, confusion, and exhaustion.
Foundational Non-Negotiables:
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Diet: Focus on nutrient quality, not strict elimination
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Sleep: Prioritize restful sleep
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Poop: Keep digestion healthy and regular
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Hydration: Crucial for every body system
“If we build a rock-solid foundation, everything else gets easier. If you start with a shaky foundation, eventually everything collapses and you’re back to square one (or worse).”
Getting Started: Your First Step
So—if you’re feeling overwhelmed by protocols, where should you actually begin? Surprisingly, the answer isn’t “go start a supplement” or “overhaul the diet tonight.”
“The first step is not to go get a supplement. The first step is to figure out what’s going on with your child’s body right now and start from there.”
Your Personalized Starting Point
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Observe: Spend a week just watching your child. Note sleep, digestion, energy, mood, and foods.
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Ask Why: For any supplements or therapies you’re using—do you know why you’re using them?
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Do Less: Cut back on new additions until you’ve found clear patterns and root causes.
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Find a Provider Who Listens: Seek out clinicians (naturopathic, integrative, functional) who will build a slow, individualized plan—not copy and paste a protocol.
FAQs: Personalized Autism Care
What if my child is already on a long list of supplements?
Start by reviewing why each one is in place. With a provider’s guidance, look for redundancies and remove anything that’s not tied to a specific observed need.
My family’s not ready to change our diet. What should we do?
Find a provider who respects your goals and willingness. Small steps (like hydration and sleep) often make a big impact, and food-based changes don’t have to be “all or nothing.”
How long does it take to see results?
It depends. Some changes (like sleep schedules) can bring quick relief. Deeper issues (like digestive imbalances or inflammation) may take months—or longer—to see sustained change.
How do I know if my provider is customizing the plan for my child?
They’ll start with a detailed intake and observation, ask lots of questions, run targeted tests (if needed), and avoid overwhelming you with too many changes at once.
Final Thoughts
If you’re on the receiving end of overwhelming advice and mountains of protocols, remember: you’re not behind. The path to sustainable, personalized progress starts with less, not more.
“It’s not about doing everything right. It’s about doing the right first thing.”
When you slow down, listen to your child’s body, and build a strong foundation one step at a time, you set your family—and your child—up for long-term success. There’s no race, no magic bullet, and no need to go it alone. Your journey matters, your voice counts, and I’m cheering you on.